In Oscar Wilde’s novel, The Picture of Dorian Gray, Basil Hallward said to his friend Lord Henry Wotton “You like everyone; that is to say, you are indifferent to everyone.”
Stumbling upon this in an international blog, the author quoted this particular statement, followed by the comment- “Love, it seemed, was not above context but required context. To love everyone or everything was to misappropriate the emotion entirely.”
NH is hardly similar to Wotton, more so to Hallward, and so it only seems ironic to compare him to Wotton by this very remark. However, it is entirely, in its entity, true even in Hallward with regards to his obsession of physical beauty. NH is easily appealed to the appearance of world’s “beauty” and that to him, paints him an idealistic image of how he could contribute all the good he has to offer. He is amazingly wonderful, but also readily persuaded with randomness when it comes to an appreciation for love that drastically differs from mine. Whether it is my inner sensitivity or Disney beliefs, I would like to think that most people would want someone with a sense of stubbornness in who they choose as their lover. He, on the other hand, is casual.
How casual may you ask? Casual enough to bother me frequently and act on it. Casual enough that he would form a love connection with someone who didn’t suit him in any manner. Casual enough to plan a marriage with someone that his gut knew he would eventually depart from. Casual enough to assume an illusion of love is love, more specifically to interpret love as people who planted seeds of necessity in him. Casual enough to rebound from relationship after relationship in short periods without prior foundation, and claims to “love” every time with every girl.
How can one not generate a sense of futility after a break up if love was the product during that time? How does one not hurt, ache, with the desire to regain completeness only accomplished by the one who left in the first place? How does one learn to love again without realizing how it was misinterpreted, leading to its demise? How does one meet righteous love consecutively?
The answer is, you can’t, you don’t, you shouldn’t. And if you do, love no longer holds value. To say you love is unfair to those who love wholeheartedly, timelessly, unwaveringly.
~People may fall in love easily, but they should not fall in love casually. Casual-ity is an injustice to true love.
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